What exactly is love?
We say “love”… but is it truly unconditional? Or is it just a feeling that changes according to our needs?

👶 The Mathematics of Love From Birth

• A child loves the mother because she gave birth and fed the child. This love is usually strong until about 5–6 years of age. A baby receives the mother’s milk even before opening its eyes—but does this affection last forever? Think about it.

• A child loves parents because they give food and toys — until about 6–7 years.

• Love for relatives or neighbors because they give gifts and freedom — until about 10–11 years.

• Love for fun and companionship — around 14–15 years.

• Attraction to many things, pleasures, desires, and love — 16–20 years.

• Love mainly for personal happiness and enjoyment — 20–25 years.

👉 What does this mean?
Most love after birth is based on needs.

⚖️ Real-Life Observations

▪️ As long as you give everything to the child → the child loves you.
▪️ Husband and wife are healthy and working → love continues.
▪️ If the wife manages the home, money, and family → love continues.
▪️ Love for parents → until one starts earning or gets married (sometimes lifelong — but that’s an exception).

❌ But…

▪️ If the son doesn’t work → love decreases.
▪️ If the husband’s income decreases → love decreases.
▪️ If both earn → love often tilts toward the one who earns more.
▪️ Friends → as long as there is money and fun.
▪️ Couples → until responsibilities increase.
▪️ Young love → often about pleasure and enjoyment.
▪️ When illness, loans, and troubles increase → love often decreases.

🧠 Relationships and Transactions

• A daughter-in-law loves her in-laws if she receives care and affection from them.

• A mother-in-law loves the daughter-in-law if she does not cause trouble.

• A teacher’s affection often stays until the student succeeds academically (more attention to those who progress).

• A doctor is valued while the illness exists.

• A guru is loved as long as he is not strict, does not enforce discipline, and does not create problems. When everything is fine, who remembers the guru?

👉 Once the need is fulfilled, the influence often fades.

🕉️ What Does Spirituality Say?

Spirituality says:

🌿 True love means doing good without expectations.
🌿 Love that shapes us through discipline.
🌿 Love that remains even in difficulties, not only in comfort.

🔑 Important Conclusion

Love that changes according to needs — this is reality, not necessarily a fault.

🚩 But remember:

👉 Parents, gurus, teachers, and doctors who sometimes scold us and discipline us are the ones who ultimately shape our lives.

Today they may feel unpleasant, but because of them our life gets direction and growth.

🌱 Final Thought

Often people do not love those who are weaker or less successful.
But the real question is:

👉 Are our expectations right?

❤️ Recognize love

✨ That which improves you — is love.
✨ That which only gives pleasure — is attachment.
✨ That which sometimes acts strictly and helps you stand strong — that is true love.